The EX and a big thanks to Deb for listening!

Ok...so my hubby's ex wife calls tonight because her toilet is leaking. HMMM.... She has a live in boyfriend, she has a plumber (already there working on the problem), she and E have been divorced about 5 years and he and I have been together for 3 (married for 2 years this coming May) and she needed to call him about this WHY??? This call wasn't the first. This call was one of MANY that I have had to endure over the last 3 years. Now they do share a daughter together and I can deal with those kinds of calls. It is her RIGHT to call to talk about or discuss their daughter, but NOT to discuss or ask about HER (the ex) life.

I have told E several times in the past how this bothers me. My ex doesn't call and burden me with his life. He did for quite some time after we split up in 2002, whining about how bad his life sucked and what his problems were (mostly to put ALL the blame on me), BUT I quickly put an end to those calls by telling him how sorry I was for his bleak existance...BUT he needed to grow up and fix his life himself that I wasn't the problem and it wasn't my job to fix his issues.

I just don't understand how E can't get that message accross to his ex. I don't know if he has even ever mentioned it to her. He says he has, but that she is just STUPID. I want to believe him and give him the benefit of the doubt, but I think he needs to make a much stronger impression on her that her calls need to be limited to topics that involve their daughter and that ANY other issue is off limits. I told him I would be HAPPY to relay this to her for him, but he declined. He said he will talk to her again.

I ALMOST called to tell her myself, but didn't feel 1. like it was my place, 2. that it would probably piss E off. So to calm myself down abit and to make sure I was being rational with my anger, I call a good friend and sorority sister Deb. She and I have similiar background relationship wise. She is remarried and is doing the whole blended family thing. She has a step-son and an ex wife to deal with, and even though her relationship with the ex is a little more common than mine with E's ex (we have only been put in 2 situations together and I have very limited contact with her)....at least Deb had the experience that I needed to draw from to calm me down. So thanks Deb!! I really appreciate you letting me vent and gain some perspective. :)

So if you see me on the local news for transporting myself over the telephone line next time the EX calls and strangling that woman and I make national headlines....just remember me and this post and use it in my defense!! ;)